Big Shoulders is dedicated to raising awareness of abuse in all its forms — helping victims, survivors, and those who care for them find understanding, support, and a path forward.
Sources: Office for National Statistics, NSPCC, SafeLives
Abuse takes many forms. Recognising them is the first step towards getting help.
Any act of deliberate physical force — hitting, kicking, restraining, or using weapons — that causes harm or injury.
Learn moreUsing words, actions, or behaviour to control, demean, isolate, or manipulate another person.
Learn moreAny sexual act or behaviour carried out without full, informed and ongoing consent.
Learn moreA pattern of behaviour used to take away a person's freedom — including monitoring, threats, and isolation.
Learn moreControlling a person's access to money, employment, or financial resources as a means of power.
Learn moreHarassment, stalking, threats, or sharing intimate images without consent, carried out via technology.
Learn moreAbuse isn't always visible. Knowing what to look for — whether in yourself or someone you care about — can be life-changing.
Warning signs vary across different types of abuse, but many are surprisingly subtle. Understanding them could help you or someone you know take the first step.
Recognising the SignsRemember: Abuse is never the victim's fault. No matter what someone has been told, they are not to blame for the way they have been treated.
Are you a professional? Teachers, healthcare workers, and others in contact with vulnerable people have a duty of care. Our resources can help you respond appropriately.
Confidential, free support is available right now. You don't need to face this alone.
If you're worried about a friend, family member, or colleague, knowing how to help — and how not to — can make a real difference.
Create a safe space for them to talk. Believe what they tell you and don't minimise their experience.
Help with safety planning, researching support services, or simply being there consistently.
Avoid pressuring them to leave, confronting the abuser, or sharing information that could put them at risk.